Don't let people get you down, Pan. You are who you are and no one can tell you differently. As long as you believe that and hold on to it, it's truer than anything anybody could possibly tell you.
From the people I've talked to about it, they mostly said it's because of your penchant for roleplaying. They can't discern your real quest from another bout at playing a role.
If I weren't on the same quest myself, I might not be able to tell the difference in you, either. Your ability to step into a part and act it out at great length and in great detail is one of your finer talents. It's what makes you a great actor, and it helps give you your creative edge. (And you've certainly had enough time to hone that skill - you have spent 20+ years playing the role of a believable girl, after all.) When starry-eyed adults tell kids all about "the power of imagination," they barely know what they're talking about, but I do know. You're it, Theo. You've got that power of imagination, and you channel it in all sorts of ways, and that's part of the reason I love you.
Too many people don't believe in your transition because they've gone and confused it as just another outlet of your imagination. They don't get that, at its root cause, it's more about molecular neurobiology than it is about dreams and wishes (though they certainly come into play later!).
If you want some different advice about passing, I'd say this: Use your imagination more. Be totally f'n creative. You've got this miraculous power in your head, this way of making people believe by believing yourself. Play a role. Play yourself. Play the role of that boy (he's a young man now) that you always should have been.
And Whitney (Black Cat Whitney) has a theory: The more masculine you feel, the more testosterone your body produces.
Oh, Oz, you always know just what to say. And the licking icon of caring, too.
I didn't know what you meant at first, and I was afraid (like thid D:) but then... I know when I'm in a role because I could always step out of it. See, but if you weren't there to say all of the rest of that, I would be in a very bad place indeed. I'd be lost (because 25 million people can't all be wrong, can they? I always say).
I wish one day I could help you as much as you helped me. Or repay you. Something to show what it means to me.
25 million people can CERTAINLY all be wrong. Look at the masses who voted for Bush. Look at all the participants/silent observers during the Holocaust. Look at the Chinese occupation of Tibet. Look at Wal-Mart.
If you want to repay me, you can do so by getting a handle on this and committing to develop more confidence in yourself. Seeing that would more than satisfy me - and if you ever give up on yourself, there wouldn't be any way to make it up to me.
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Date: Tuesday, January 27th, 2009 06:10 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: Wednesday, January 28th, 2009 02:31 am (UTC)From:If I weren't on the same quest myself, I might not be able to tell the difference in you, either. Your ability to step into a part and act it out at great length and in great detail is one of your finer talents. It's what makes you a great actor, and it helps give you your creative edge. (And you've certainly had enough time to hone that skill - you have spent 20+ years playing the role of a believable girl, after all.) When starry-eyed adults tell kids all about "the power of imagination," they barely know what they're talking about, but I do know. You're it, Theo. You've got that power of imagination, and you channel it in all sorts of ways, and that's part of the reason I love you.
Too many people don't believe in your transition because they've gone and confused it as just another outlet of your imagination. They don't get that, at its root cause, it's more about molecular neurobiology than it is about dreams and wishes (though they certainly come into play later!).
If you want some different advice about passing, I'd say this:
Use your imagination more. Be totally f'n creative. You've got this miraculous power in your head, this way of making people believe by believing yourself.
Play a role.
Play yourself. Play the role of that boy (he's a young man now) that you always should have been.
And Whitney (Black Cat Whitney) has a theory: The more masculine you feel, the more testosterone your body produces.
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Date: Wednesday, January 28th, 2009 02:32 am (UTC)From:Nommity nommity nom!
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Date: Wednesday, January 28th, 2009 06:08 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: Wednesday, January 28th, 2009 06:21 am (UTC)From:I didn't know what you meant at first, and I was afraid (like thid D:) but then... I know when I'm in a role because I could always step out of it. See, but if you weren't there to say all of the rest of that, I would be in a very bad place indeed. I'd be lost (because 25 million people can't all be wrong, can they? I always say).
I wish one day I could help you as much as you helped me. Or repay you. Something to show what it means to me.
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Date: Wednesday, January 28th, 2009 06:22 am (UTC)From:Not that I'm sad anymore. I'm better now because of everyone. EVERYone.
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Date: Wednesday, January 28th, 2009 09:12 pm (UTC)From:If you want to repay me, you can do so by getting a handle on this and committing to develop more confidence in yourself. Seeing that would more than satisfy me - and if you ever give up on yourself, there wouldn't be any way to make it up to me.