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[harp]

After three days, my personal Denouement about FamilyGate. And wouldn't you know it? It was all because of a conversation I had with a transwoman.


(It's supposed to be happy and light-hearted, by the way. *shrug*)

I can still see the positives in the episode (not outing her, explaining vaginoplasty properly instead of going with "hacked it off") and I still think Ida was a mature, sympathetic character with assholes around her behaving like... well, transphobic assholes. And I still think Queer_Rage is 3.5 out of 5 times a basin of "..." and that the mods are ridiculous, sexist, concerned mother extremists.

But now I recognize my own bias and why the positives stick out for me, and this is why I can also see why the people who were hurt felt hurt and why they felt dismissed. Sometimes you don't want to have the edge taken off. Sometimes you don't even want them to rage and hate on what hurt you either. Sometimes you just want someone to say "Yeah, that part there is fucked up. Period.".

So I'm seeing all sides now and not really taking any.

Comments

[doomweasel.livejournal.com]

Do you have evidence that he's a queer ally? Because I haven't seen/heard any, which makes me leery of his "But it's satire!" defense.

[some-effulgence.livejournal.com]

Gay ally =/= Transgender ally. I have met plenty of LGB people who are rampantly transphobic.

[doomweasel.livejournal.com]

Exactly. It took a hell of a fight to get the T added to GLB, and most of the time it's forgotten anyway.

[harpsi-fizz.livejournal.com]

Hell, even gay men that are all "Rargh Transsexuals!" Like in this one issue of "Out" magazine (the trans issue). The issue was lovely to me, but a gay man wrote a very angry letter to the editor.

But damn, I do so want to be loved that I'm very quick to put the label of "Ally!" to anyone that expresses an opinion other than "you should have the right to use the same public restroom as I do." =/ I know that I do it.

[harpsi-fizz.livejournal.com]

More or less, my lovely Tyler! And we need to give our allies love for what deserves love and chastise them when they need it. Too much of either is bad day.

[akhlut.livejournal.com]

Firstly: yes, I realize I'm about 3 weeks late on this. Whateva! I do what I want!

Ahem, anyway, I don't quite get the rage, meself. A quick rundown of most of the characters on the show should illustrate that this isn't a progressive group of characters. Peter is consistently shown to be a complete regressive and is usually shown to be the stupidest character on the show; Lois, while intelligent, is also usually shown to retain at least a few of her privileged family's conservative social views; Meg's crazy and Chris's stupid, while Stewie is a bizarre mixture of ultra-fundie and possible homosexual as the plot dictates; and Brian's a known racist. The other characters tend to be even worse. So, how, exactly, is it surprising or even offensive that these characters would show offensive views, given that they've been shown to be racist, religious bigots, classist, and otherwise bigoted?