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The first three tests (Microbiology, Anatomy, Funeral Directing) went incredibly well. The one we had on embalming on Friday... not so well. Fortunately, I'm not the only one.
Our very first test was on the history of embalming, and wow, is there a lot of history. Who invented the Trochar? Who got caught photographed embalming in the Civil War and made it so that we have to get licenses? Who invented embalming fluid? Who was the first black embalmer?
Professor M must've known we were worried, because he trolled us gewd with the first test. I kid you not, these are some of the items in the "match the name to the things" part of the exam:
"Discovered Capillaries"
"Invented the Trochar"
"Father of embalming"
"Father of modern embalming"
"Embalmed Lincoln"
"Did none of these things"
And then this one: "Derp's Catacomb is named after him" with Joe Derp and William Derp right next to each other as options in the names column.
The first black embalmer was a man named Prince Greere. The other class had that as a multiple choice question. With the other answers multiple spellings of Greere, including "Green". I could practically see the trollface/rage comic spawning from that. I'll probably make it one.
I finally got around to inviting this girl that sits on the other side of the room and wears a black and white striped scarf all the time into our studying group, and it wasn't scary at all. She's incredibly cute and (get this) about my height, maybe even a titch shorter. Aquarius, too. It's always Aquarius.
These situations don't come up much, but they're annoying if I think about it too much. It's like... she's cute, but who cares? I can't really do anything about it because (and this is hard to explain), there's nothing to be done about it. Sure I know what other people would do.
"Tell her you think she's cute."
Why?
"Maybe she'll go out with you."
But I don't want to go out with her.
"Why not?"
I'm not interested, it would cut into my alone time, I'd have to talk and tell her things, she'd probably expect me to want to kiss and stuff or hang out outside of class.
"Thought you said she was cute."
She is! Very!
"So don't you want to do something about it?"
I... what are my options?
"Ask her out."
I'm really, really not interested in that.
"What would you do if she asked you out? Hypothetically."
Get really uncomfortable and feign oblivion and make up an excuse as I did so, but be glad that this means we're friends.
What can you do? Nothing. "My blood type is B. There was a lady in a red coat on the subway today. I think you're super cute, and it's a lot of fun, and that makes me really happy." Those are all the same when I say them, but people have reactions of various types to the last one.
"I wish you were asexual, too, so we could be asexual aromantic together." I can't even explain that to you guys, and I'm laughing about how it can't be explained! "Well... that's when we say to each other 'wow, you're cute, I like you' and then we never, ever, ever talk about it again or acknowledge it, and hardly talk to each other, but we leave each other unsigned little general notes and maybe a few times a year for no reason tiny inexpensive gifts for no reason. We never say thank you for these, we merely express our delight as though the other isn't there (but they probably are listening). To put it in the most blunt of terms bordering on crass and a bit overstated, we don't date anyone at all, but we're not dating each other a little less than we're not dating everyone else in the world." Think Dwight and Angela from The Office seasons 1-5, but subtract the sex and the cute name calling. Torrented that show and have been watching it lately before bed. I especially like the whole not-looking-at-each-other-to-talk thing.
What can I do but keep it to myself? For everyone's sake. It's common courtesy to do so.
Our very first test was on the history of embalming, and wow, is there a lot of history. Who invented the Trochar? Who got caught photographed embalming in the Civil War and made it so that we have to get licenses? Who invented embalming fluid? Who was the first black embalmer?
Professor M must've known we were worried, because he trolled us gewd with the first test. I kid you not, these are some of the items in the "match the name to the things" part of the exam:
"Discovered Capillaries"
"Invented the Trochar"
"Father of embalming"
"Father of modern embalming"
"Embalmed Lincoln"
"Did none of these things"
And then this one: "Derp's Catacomb is named after him" with Joe Derp and William Derp right next to each other as options in the names column.
The first black embalmer was a man named Prince Greere. The other class had that as a multiple choice question. With the other answers multiple spellings of Greere, including "Green". I could practically see the trollface/rage comic spawning from that. I'll probably make it one.
I finally got around to inviting this girl that sits on the other side of the room and wears a black and white striped scarf all the time into our studying group, and it wasn't scary at all. She's incredibly cute and (get this) about my height, maybe even a titch shorter. Aquarius, too. It's always Aquarius.
These situations don't come up much, but they're annoying if I think about it too much. It's like... she's cute, but who cares? I can't really do anything about it because (and this is hard to explain), there's nothing to be done about it. Sure I know what other people would do.
"Tell her you think she's cute."
Why?
"Maybe she'll go out with you."
But I don't want to go out with her.
"Why not?"
I'm not interested, it would cut into my alone time, I'd have to talk and tell her things, she'd probably expect me to want to kiss and stuff or hang out outside of class.
"Thought you said she was cute."
She is! Very!
"So don't you want to do something about it?"
I... what are my options?
"Ask her out."
I'm really, really not interested in that.
"What would you do if she asked you out? Hypothetically."
Get really uncomfortable and feign oblivion and make up an excuse as I did so, but be glad that this means we're friends.
What can you do? Nothing. "My blood type is B. There was a lady in a red coat on the subway today. I think you're super cute, and it's a lot of fun, and that makes me really happy." Those are all the same when I say them, but people have reactions of various types to the last one.
"I wish you were asexual, too, so we could be asexual aromantic together." I can't even explain that to you guys, and I'm laughing about how it can't be explained! "Well... that's when we say to each other 'wow, you're cute, I like you' and then we never, ever, ever talk about it again or acknowledge it, and hardly talk to each other, but we leave each other unsigned little general notes and maybe a few times a year for no reason tiny inexpensive gifts for no reason. We never say thank you for these, we merely express our delight as though the other isn't there (but they probably are listening). To put it in the most blunt of terms bordering on crass and a bit overstated, we don't date anyone at all, but we're not dating each other a little less than we're not dating everyone else in the world." Think Dwight and Angela from The Office seasons 1-5, but subtract the sex and the cute name calling. Torrented that show and have been watching it lately before bed. I especially like the whole not-looking-at-each-other-to-talk thing.
What can I do but keep it to myself? For everyone's sake. It's common courtesy to do so.
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Date: Saturday, January 21st, 2012 07:06 pm (UTC)From:best wishes <3 :)
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Date: Saturday, January 21st, 2012 08:16 pm (UTC)From:Being Asexual. To get an idea what it's like, imagine NASCAR. Are you interested in NASCAR? Watching the cars go around a million times, the driver's names, the miles, the makes and models? Not really interesting? Don't really care? Imagine if everyone in your school was suddenly super obsessed with it and one day your friends convinced you to go to one of the races. You know that kinda feeling of "Ok, I'm trying to give a damn, but I really would rather be doing something else" and "Explain to me again what the appeal is?" and "Ok. You like that. More power to you, but I don't care"? Sex is like NASCAR.
Even closer example: Imagine your family moved to another planet that was exactly like Earth with beings that were exactly like humans except that on this planets, babies actually come from stork delivery. On this planet, the dominant culture is based on eyebrow beauty. Males of the species are said to think about a raised eyebrow every 17 seconds. Most plots on TV shows feature eyebrow fixation as a major plot point. Touching another's eyebrow is something you do behind closed doors. Licking another's eyebrow... That is supposed to be reserved for marriage, but plenty of teens who slurp in parked cars, far from the eyes of prudish parents. Some teens' grades are bad because they cannot concentrate on academics; all they ever think about is eyebrows, especially big bushy ones.
"What on Earth is this eyebrow thing?" you, new resident from Earth ask. You are aware of eyebrows' existence, and you are perfectly capable of admiring a nice set aesthetically, but these people seem to devote a large chunk of mental energy and waking hours to it! And it's kinda ridiculous! It just does not make sense. It's their culture, and you're like "oh, well, I just live here!" but sometimes it gets a teensy bit old when every conversation, tv show, movie, and book starts to go back to that eyebrow thing.
That little switch is what I think the difference is. Every human has a sexual switch. Every single one. When it gets flicked to "on", a person is turned on and all the sex-lextricity flows. Most people get their switches connected during puberty, but some people get it connected earlier. Some people's switches only get activated by certain things. Some people's wirings short out. The wirings usually follow a general pattern. Some people have a dimmer instead of a switch. Some people's electricity flows more strongly to the living room than it does to the dining room.
And asexuals... the electrician never showed up to hook up the wire. Which confuses some people. They're like "I'm flicking this switch! Is it going? Why isn't there light?!" And it can be confusing for asexuals, too. We see everybody else flicking their switches and going "WOW! ALL THIS LIGHT!" So sometimes it's like "where's my light?" And before I realized it, I often mistook the light shining in the windows from outside or from other people's houses to be my light. But nope. The switch just isn't connected. And sometimes I forget that it's not connected until I invite someone over to read.
"Uh, where's the light?"
"... Oops. Forgot about that. Um... want to sit in the dark?"
"Well then how do you read?"
"I don't, really."
"Well then why do you invite me to read if you don't have any lights?"
"Yours were just so bright shining in my windows! I got confused! I keep hearing all this stuff about when the lights go on, and it's such a "given" that everyone has lights that sometimes I can forget that the switch doesn't connect."
But other times, most times in fact, but especially when my friends are moping about their relationship troubles, it's more like everyone has this horrible curse or disease and it makes them miserable. But I don't have the disease and I am immune, so I feel guilty watching them suffer.
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Date: Sunday, January 22nd, 2012 01:43 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: Sunday, January 22nd, 2012 06:14 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: Saturday, January 21st, 2012 08:16 pm (UTC)From:I hope that helps. If not, ask, ask ask. Education is good. Some people get all butthurt when asked "what's it like to be asexual" and I'm sure they have their reasons for feeling annoyed, but some of them really snap and bark at people who ask, and that's just wrong. Then they go "Aren't I allowed to get angry?" Yeah. You're allowed to get angry. You're not allowed to express than anger by being nasty to another person. Just be nice, jeez... Sorry. I just can't stand those anti-intellectual, anti-education people who want people to give a damn about their cause and spend a bunch of time educating themselves about it and they can't understand why a person might not want to go do that after being belittled and guilted and made to feel like shyte. I have no sympathy for those people. They're mean and rotten and don't deserve kindness if they can't first show it.
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Date: Saturday, January 21st, 2012 08:36 pm (UTC)From:and I agree completely that education is important.. I'm the type of person who always wants to learn more, especially from someone in the situation (like you). lack of education is why people may not know if they're asexual, transgendered, gay, bi, etc. Thanks for teaching me something.
Sexuality can be fun but also a burden so you may not be missing out as much as you think (by other people focusing too much on it in their lives). :)